BDSM doesn’t always have to be super intense and scary. When you think of bondage, do you think of whips, spring ticklers, mouth gags, chains and intense rope play? Soft bondage is a very fun and enjoyable way to get your first experience with bondage without going far.
Since “Fifty Shades” hit the mainstream, it has become less of a taboo and more of a must. In fact, according to a recent study, more than one in four people have admitted to trying their hand at some form of BDSM.
What is soft bondage?
Soft bondage (or vanilla bondage) is a part of light BDSM play where you submit and tie yourself up during sex with your partner – for example, using a BDSM spreader bar.
It may also involve turning off one or more of your senses (usually with blindfolds or earplugs), which increases the pleasure and intensity of your sexual activity.
What activities involve light bondage?
You might think that soft bondage means being tied up, but that’s not all.
There are different levels of bondage, and vanilla bondage is great because it only touches the tip of the iceberg.
Soft bondage usually involves light spanking, blindfolds (maybe Venetian masks), and gentle restraint. It can also include role playing and dom/sub play if you command your partner to follow you.
Safety comes first!
BDSM is very serious, and if you’re really interested in trying it out, you need to approach it with the respect it deserves for both yourself, your partner, and this ancient form of sexual activity in general.
As with any other sexual activity, consent and communication are crucial to a good experience. And that’s even more important when it comes to being partially or fully immobilized in vanilla bondage. So before you play, sit down with your partner and talk about things you’re comfortable with and want to try, as well as any boundaries you have.
After that, you should come up with a safe word to use during the game. Safe words are important to make sure you can change directions without interrupting the game. Think of a simple word that you don’t normally say during sex, or just use the traffic light system (green = really great; orange = slow; red – stop immediately).
9 Best Soft Bondage Ideas to Spice Up Your Sex Life
And now it’s time to get to the best part of this post: nine amazing soft bondage ideas that will make your sex life so much better!
Let’s get started!
1. Make your partner follow your rules.
Before you reach for blindfolds or bondage ropes, try verbal bondage. By using your words and giving your partner commands, you can really get a sense of what light bondage is all about. So why not try giving orders, setting the rules, and being in control of your partner’s sexual desires?
You can try this little scenario:
Get your partner to watch you while you masturbate in front of them. Be so close to the person that they can see everything very well and it is so tempting to join in. Don’t let them touch themselves or you; just let them watch you pleasure yourself. This can be very stimulating, and most likely your partner won’t be able to keep their hands to themselves. If they break your rules and touch you or themselves, you need to punish them! You don’t have to overdo it; a light spanking or something like that can be more than enough to show your power.
And then you can try again!
2. get into your handcuff fantasy.
I know we’ve all dreamed of being handcuffed to the bed during sex or doing it with our partner. It’s one of the most popular fantasies when it comes to bondage, and the easiest way to imagine it!
Get some fluffy handcuffs from the supermarket or some sturdy metal (or leather) cuffs from the specialty store. There are even elegant wrist cuffs you can buy if your partner wants something cute and not as intimidating as police handcuffs. It’s the easiest bondage fantasy, so if you’re just getting started with bondage, give it a try!
3. try different bondage you can find at home!
Let your partner tie you up and do anything he wants to you. The pleasure from this action can be amazing. Once you try it, it’s very liberating and really turns you on because you don’t have to worry about anything other than being stimulated and teased by your partner. He or she is in control and makes sure that you feel all the sensations that you desire while he or she has the pleasure of pleasuring you.
There are different types of bondage that you can find at home:
If you are a beginner in soft bondage, why don’t you try using your partner’s ties or cloths to tie your hands. It’s easy and won’t harm your hands.
When you have more experience and know what you like and don’t like, then it’s time to move on to other types of bondage. Bondage ropes can be very exciting; you can choose either cotton or nylon ropes that won’t hurt your skin. If you like it rough, try ropes made of natural materials. And you probably already have some unused ones in the garage!
Just make sure you have a pair of safety scissors with you, because some bondage ropes don’t come off that quickly.
You can buy a bondage kit here!
4. use cable ties
If you or your partner like a bit of pain during sex, then using cable ties might be just the thing for you.
When you’re tied up and pulling on your hands, they cut into your hands and can leave marks. I know it turns a lot of people on, and if you’re one of those people, you should try it out!
5. Have you heard of the spreader bar?
Another great bondage you can add to your soft bondage game is a spreader bar. It’s a type of bondage that you attach to your ankles and has a bar to spread your legs. You’ve probably seen it if you’ve watched 50 Shades of Grey! Well, it can be really fun to use because you can’t close your legs and run away from a great orgasm while your partner is working with you.
Trust me, it’s really worth it!
If you’re a big BDSM fan, check out these products:
- BDSM Couch
- BDSM Gloves
6. use bondage tape
If you’re still wondering what type of bondage is best for your bondage game, then look no further: Bondage tape is great for this!
It’s called bondage tape because it’s specifically designed for this purpose, and don’t worry, it won’t hurt you like regular tape. It is self-adhesive! This means that it doesn’t stick to your skin, only to the tape itself. You can easily wrap it around your hands or feet, and it’s comfortable and easy to remove if something happens and you need to free your partner quickly. Just make sure you have scissors on hand for emergencies, and enjoy your game!
7. try bondage under the bed
One of the most practical bondage toys are bed restraints.
If you’ve tried bondage before and you and your partner like to play a little from time to time, it might be worth investing in this toy! Trust me, you’ll love not having to get the ropes or handcuffs out of the closet every time it’s time to play. There are many different types of underbed restraints, and they are both convenient to use and hide under the mattress when you’re done!
8. try Japanese bonding
Shibari and Kinbaku are two Japanese bondage techniques that use ropes. These techniques are very erotic and can be a great way to spice things up.
Of course, the way to tie the bondage ropes is a bit more advanced, so it might not work for beginners the first time. But there’s something very special about the ritualistic way of tying up your partner with ropes and then doing whatever you want with them.
Plus, it’s aesthetically pleasing too!
9. Why shouldn’t you complement your soft bondage with other gentle BDSM practices?
Today I talked about bondage ropes, spreader bars, and different types of restraints, but there is so much more you can use for a great soft bondage experience e.g. sex toys, role playing, and even turning off your partner’s senses.
If you’ve tried all the tips I gave earlier and you feel like you’re really into bondage play, get some toys to enhance the experience. You can try incorporating role play and get some costumes to make it realistic and fun. Or you can get a cock cage for your partner and take away the power of pleasuring yourself.
There are so many things to explore!
Another great way to spice things up is to take away one or more of your partner’s senses. This will ensure that their sexual experience will be a lot more intense and they will surrender to your power. You can either try blindfolding your partner so that they can’t see what you’re doing to their body. Or you can try earplugs or tape over their mouth. This is quite harmless, and the sensations will be so much better for your partner. In no time, your partner will be screaming and begging for you to finish him!
Conclusion
And there you have it – everything you need to know about soft bondage and nine different ways to incorporate it into your sex life!
If you’ve ever wanted to try light BDSM, don’t be shy and get started.
It can be a very rewarding experience and the best way to spice up your regular sex routine with your partner!
